Hmm, I feel like I gotta clear up some misconceptions.

1. The Hexbear account is not my alt, it’s my main
2. Hexbear unfortunately does not allow me to define the appropriate number of pronoun forms, I’m limited to 2 pairs of 2
3. I did not import from Hexbear and my display name is not an “accident”
4. User tags only notify in comments until 1.0.0 (maybe not a misconception since I’m not sure if that’s even a proper tag as-is, and maybe you weren’t actually intending for me to see the post)

Congrats on figuring it out, I just vagueposted complained in my profile without bothering to try to fix things myself until a cool cat gave me a hand.