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PhenomenalPancake

@ PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

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    Never underestimate the erotic power of the neck and back. But also be careful with them.

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  • I live for neck licks. It's like electricity throughout my body and I make noises I didn't know I could.

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    Fingering a vagina? Curve your finger upwards!

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  • Just take your finger and curl it upwards to make it a similar shape to your dick.

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    Unfortunately, for those with a uterus, the best time to have PIV sex to not get pregnant is during your period.

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  • I've heard that some people have increased sex drives during PMS but I've never been with any such people. I wonder how common it is.

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    Unfortunately, for those with a uterus, the best time to have PIV sex to not get pregnant is during your period.

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  • Do you think any of it is wrong or so you just hate that it's true?

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    If it's not for religious purposes or because of a specific medical issue, there's no real reason to circumcise your baby.

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  • FGM on a vagina is unquestionably abhorrent. There's literally no reason to do it under any circumstances and it causes serious harm even if done "correctly".

    As someone who's only benefited from it being done on my penis, I can safely say that it shouldn't be done on the vast majority of penises either, but I can't in good conscience advocate against it for other Jews, nor for it, since I see the upsides and downsides of it. That's been my point the whole time.

    The fact that the person might grow up to present as trans tips the scale to increasing the number of people who shouldn't get it, especially Jews, but it's so much worse when people need it later in life for both medical and religious reasons that I can't justify saying that it shouldn't be done on any babies for whom it's not immediately medically necessary at birth. However, I also won't disagree with your opinion on the matter since you were harmed by it more than you were hurt and your perspective is valuable.

    All of this to say that it's dangerous to prescribe what's best for others without the full context of the individual need of both the person in question and their family, community, and culture. Just because it's not what I'd do for my kids if I had them doesn't mean I can disparage the people who do. And I struggled with the decision not to do it if I had kids because even though I want them to have the same appreciation for and control to their Jewish culture and heritage as I do, it's more important to me that they're not at risk for health problems and can maximize their sexual health. I just have to teach them how to clean their foreskin even though I don't have any.

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    Unfortunately, for those with a uterus, the best time to have PIV sex to not get pregnant is during your period.

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  • The fact that I posted it, the information contained in it, or the fact that people need to be told it?

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    If it's not for religious purposes or because of a specific medical issue, there's no real reason to circumcise your baby.

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  • You do realize I'm not actually advocating for the practice, right? I can't in good conscience tell anyone to circumcise, even Jews. I just know what it means to me to be circumcised. I'm sorry about the experience you had, and it further emphasizes the point I make in my OP.

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    Unfortunately, for those with a uterus, the best time to have PIV sex to not get pregnant is during your period.

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  • Do you know what about it specifically helps with the cramps? Like does she need to orgasm for it to work or is just the PIV enough?

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    Unfortunately, for those with a uterus, the best time to have PIV sex to not get pregnant is during your period.

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  • I can only speak for my own experience with women, and the three that I've had sex with during multiple different parts of their menstrual cycle (the three I've had relationships with and weren't ONS's) had the highest libido during ovulation and the lowest during menstruation. I have no idea how true this is for the general population though.

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    Recently had my first time with penetration, I found penetration pretty underwhelming

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  • This is a completely normal thing. Sex with a partner is vastly different from sex with a toy. The toy is designed for fast, intense gratification, while when you're with a person, you should be focusing not just on the physical sensations but on the connection your and your partner's bodies and minds have with each other during the act. It also seems like you're really accustomed to controlling your own pace instead of having someone else do it, which is often the case when you've spent a long time masturbating and tailoring your own masturbation experience over time; your experience with sex with a person for the first time will be largely shaped by your history of solitary sexual experience up to that point, so lots of jerking it exactly the way you want it while focusing on getting the most intense orgasm possible each time will shape your expectations for sex towards that goal, so it can feel disappointing when it's not like that.

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    If you're "too big for condoms", you're too big for vaginas.

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  • That does make a lot of sense.

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    Should we be concerned about cross contamination issues?

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  • Ever heard of an STD test? They should be routine whenever having extramarital or polyamorous sex, as well as hookups in general if you don't know the people well. I'm not sure what you mean by "cross-contamination", like if one person has a disease would they spread it around? If so, yes.

    You also have to remember to pee after all that and clean the mixture of fluids off to prevent irritation and UTIs.

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    If you're "too big for condoms", you're too big for vaginas.

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  • Don't I know it...

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    If you're "too big for condoms", you're too big for vaginas.

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  • Exactly. There are all sorts of condom sizes that can fit all sizes of penises, so saying that you're "too big for condoms" like a lot of people say when they don't want to wear them makes no sense. If you're too big for all the condom choices you have, you'll likely have trouble fitting into most vaginas anyway, and anuses will need the same amount of preparation as for the biggest Bad Dragons you can find.

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    If you're "too big for condoms", you're too big for vaginas.

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  • Same. I'm a poker, not a stretcher.

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    If you're "too big for condoms", you're too big for vaginas.

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  • Interesting. I haven't heard of "slim" condoms specifically but I've seen and used the Trojan Bareskins. I think those are supposed to have thinner walls if I'm not mistaken.

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    Put a towel down under whenever a vagina will be.

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  • Ah, but your wording made it seem like you were explaining to a woman something she would know about vaginal discharge.

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    Put a towel down under whenever a vagina will be.

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  • Her point was that you ask first before doing so since it's a good idea to communicate. Nobody is against putting the towel down outright.

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    Put a towel down under whenever a vagina will be.

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  • You completely missed the point of what she was trying to say about communicating with one's partner and instead strawmanned her argument as being against putting the towel down.

  • 4chan @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Place your bets: What do you think he did? /s

  • New Communities @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Sex Advice: A community for exchanging requesting offering and spreading tips tricks and knowledge about all things sexual!

    lemmy.world /c/sexadvice
  • New Communities @mander.xyz
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Sex Advice: A community for sharing and exchanging tips tricks and knowledge about all things sexual.

  • 4chan @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Big oof.

  • Microblog Memes @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Anyone else want to know the gender breakdown of this group?

  • Lemmy Shitpost @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Who's in the wrong here?

  • 4chan @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Going up to a stranger while you're both partly naked always goes great.

  • Microblog Memes @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    You got WHAT!?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    What misconception are you tired of being spread?

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    What's the most toxic mentality that people have nowadays?

  • 4chan @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    Does anyone actually unironically want to do all that?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    PhenomenalPancake @lemmy.world

    What commonly given advice is actually wrong or toxic?