adhd_traco

@ adhd_traco @piefed.social

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Just another weird millennial
Please no romancing

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Shitty Art Share piefed.social

5mo ago

What were the first outfits/pieces of clothing you got to feel more aligned with your gender?
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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago
Everyone grins when they see it.
Yuuuuup :)
It's pretty cute and kinda subtle. I like it.

5mo ago

Evil people

"If you're gonna smoke a cigarette, enjoy it." - yoga instructor

My tantrums are like putting up a picture askew. People think it's wrong, but they're too busy 'correcting' the picture, that they don't see my shit-eating grin.

Let people have fun!

It does suck though, when it's serious, or they have trouble differentiating and pull the crying-wolf card. Also cruel.

5mo ago

How would you feel if someone moved next to your residence and you found out they're a cop? Would you move away? Or try to get on their good side? Or something else?

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

In the name of the hiss, the scratch, and the holy meow, I hereby assign you a cat at birth, postnatally.

Ooooooooom

(>^{‎ _})><(‎ ^‎ _‎ ^{‎ )><(}‎ _‎^<)

🧙🐱🐈🧙

It's done. You're ACAB now.

5mo ago

What were the first outfits/pieces of clothing you got to feel more aligned with your gender?

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women’s sizes much better.

That's really interesting. I had to go to a special store that made women's shoes in sizes most stores don't.

5mo ago

The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

By noticing people complaining about it :) Also being aware of certain biases and such, and looking for the existence of posts that would be deleted if the bias was heavy, etc.

Sure, some stuff might fall under the radar or stay for a long time, definitely a thing.

5mo ago

The same people who rage against authority love moderating communities where their ideology is the only one allowed

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

I think many people feel this way, and I think in many cases another thing that plays into it is not realising the amount of good moderators, because good moderation usually doesn't make as much noise as when it's bad.

If I think of all the communities in lemmy/piefed I like, the perfect/near perfect moderation from my browsing heavily outweighs anything problematic.

5mo ago

What were the first outfits/pieces of clothing you got to feel more aligned with your gender?

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Damn, yeah ideas like this, and wearing the clothes only at home is pretty much what's on my mind, too.

I also had no idea about fashion back then so I had to experiment quite a bit and it took me a few years to really understand what looks good on me and what doesn’t.

x.x I'm gonna be extra friendly to my woman friends, so they will help me with make-up and stuff :)

Also happy to hear you had fun and didn't regret it.

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Looks like we effectively agree.

I think if we to improve the state of NSFW content we also need to be very specific in our wording of the criticism because how criticism is worded can change the context and as we agree, context matters.

Agreed! I think Multiverse made quite the effort and did a decent job. Misunderstandings and mistakes still happen, which is why just talking like this to get to our goal can be useful :)

And I think you also blurred that line with the fiction story example.

Thanks for the feedback. Reading it again now, I wouldn't know how to express it differently. But I can see how this might not be clear to people not living in my head. Useful to know.

5mo ago

Selena Gomez & Marshmello - Wolves

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

😎 nice

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

aye. same.

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Maybe. But for anyone reading who might be changing their minds. I'm not trying to step on anyone's toes and guilt trip them or put them down.

Because right now, we can look forward to how good fedinsfw can actually be. It just seems like the fediverse has a beautiful opportunity to re-imagine internet pornography. And it's realising this opportunity that I am arguing for.

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

If somebody posts a swastika, and uses it to critically talk about the nazi history, or the fertility symbol aspect of it, it's not the same as if you're posting it without comment in the context of a debate about racism, or in a PoC forum, etc.

Context matters and changes what it is we're looking at.

Is it desirable to platform a community that basically says "jerking off to underage girls, but legal"? To put it another way...

I would like to imagine fedinsfw as something beyond the boundaries of ordinary porn sites. It can be so much better. And I say this regardless of this aspect we are talking about, though, just to keep in mind.

5mo ago

What song/band did you not expect to like - but ended up loving?

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

KMFDM - I get it nowFLØRE - super cringe and lacking depth, but I still love it 😊

5mo ago

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Getting pissed at the noise kids make outside, playing.

5mo ago

How would you feel if someone moved next to your residence and you found out they're a cop? Would you move away? Or try to get on their good side? Or something else?

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Depends on the situation. But generally agree with the top comment.

Recently a cop help me with something not so super legal. Was kinda hilarious as neither of us knew about the other until we casually talked about work and he showed his badge. He was really sweet, and just hated his job. Lost soul. Hope he finds a better way. But he's still a cop, so I ultimately wouldn't trust him.

5mo ago

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Also living in the ME, so I have some personal interest. After what I've heard and looked at, I personally put the risk of escalating regionally at extremely low right now.

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

Alright, I don't care about the legal argument. That's for other folx to deal with. I care about a nice more or less ethical porn site.

And btw. Multiverse also agreed with the law, and I can see why.

I get the point of slippery slope arguments. So here's the potential harm I see, which I think you'd agree with is passing a point on the slope we don't want to cross: normalizing indulging in the sexualisation of minors, or just straight up normalising the sexualisation of minors.

If the community calls itself fauxbait, the mental process is one of sexualisation of minors, even if it isn't what's depicted. Just like a written story is just ink on paper and no performer is hurt, it's about the mental process.

They are not looking at these adults and thinking about fucking an adult. Just like the brain would do with a fictional story.

5mo ago

MULTIVERSE has defederated fedinsfw.app for hosting child pornography

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

It's not just about the age of the performers, though. I also think most people here care more about actual harm than legality.

To me it looks like it's about platforming the indulgence of the sexualization of minors. In a fictional sense, but still. Should they allow written rape fantasies of minors?

I'm gonna lean towards that this is rather normalizing and harm producing than helping people. I would love to read science on this, but this is not my field, so hard to research myself.

5mo ago

Europeans can relate

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adhd_traco @piefed.social 5mo ago

I mean, let's level our euro pride here -- we were pretty much forced to learn it with the gun of dropping out of school pressed against our heads.